You wouldn’t know it by the weather this week, but summer time and bikini season is looming. Usually, I’m always amped to throw on a swimmy suit and hit the beach or the pool, but this year, something is different…..
I think I’ve given myself unrealistic body goals.
I believe the root cause is in the fact that I sort of inadvertently lost so much weight last summer. While struggling with and trying to get my anxiety and panic attacks under control last summer, I basically quit eating. It wasn’t that I didn’t want to be eating, I’m not one of those girls who doesn’t eat…..food is always my jam! I was just way too worked up all the time. Eating just a couple bites of anything would just make me feel sick and nauseous. I remember distinctly sitting at work trying to eat a cliff bar…..it took me 4 days to get through the whole bar!! During this period I was also working out a ton, because ya know….that’s what they tell you to do when you’re stressed. Run a bunch, lift all the heavy things and put them down, and get those happy endorphin feelings flowing! I’m not sure how exactly I managed to function, but apparently anxiety gives you super powers….just not the sort of super powers anyone really wants or should have.
It turns out that loosing 15 pounds in two weeks has a dramatic effect on your muffin top. It also has a dramatic effect on your psyche…
I know that I only achieved my slimmed down self because I was unhappy, and that unhappiness and stress changed my body in ways that I normally cannot and would not do. The worst part though….is that I felt so accomplished. Maybe it was just the sense of control I had over things. Nothing felt good, but I had finally achieved the look I had been craving since high school but never had. It was the one little thing that seemed to be going in my favor. I finally had reached a point where I didn’t have to squat stretch out my freshly washed jeans, I could throw on anything in my closet and there wasn’t a lump or bump to be found, and I think it just gave me this inflated and superficial sense of self-esteem…..which when you talk about it sounds super awful and unhealthy……BECAUSE IT WAS!
My body is obviously not meant to existing in a muffin top free state….I’m honestly not sure that even the strictest diet would have kept me looking that way. Once I started feeling better the muffin top slowly but surely started making a come back. I’m naturally curvy and just tend to carry and collect all my weight generally on my love handles and around my belly button…..a spot I’ve nicknamed “The Doughnut of Awful”. I’m right around 5’10” so I’m overall very proportional and quite a healthy weight for my height. I’ve never been told that I need to loose weight by any of my doctors, and even in high school at my most active, swimming and dancing for several hours everyday, I still was no where near as slim and lean as I was last summer.
…..this photo stresses me out…..as much as I hate to say that and I want to rise above it all…..it still does. I know that it’s only 12ish pounds and some summer time tan, but I’m not sure that this picture makes me feel as happy as the other one, which is my continual struggle. There’s some muffin top and tummy squish, and my ribs and hips aren’t poking out of my body. Idk….it’s not bad, I can rationalize that, but at the same time I don’t exactly feel good about it either.
Lately, I’ve been trying very hard to convince myself that a slightly squishy Miss Happenings is a happier Miss Happenings.
- I try and remind myself that I’m in a happy relationship, and if I eat out a bit more or drink a bit more now than before it’s because I’m with someone who wants to spend time doing things and having fun with me.
- I should be happy that my brain finally realizes that skipping a workout to have lunch with friends IS NOT AN ANNOYANCE OR AN INCONVENIENCE!!! That’s just how my anxiety made me feel about it all the time. It’s a rare chance to spend quality time with some of my favorite people.
- I should realize that I rarely hang out in bikinis alone, so even if I’m looking slightly squishy in a bikini I’m still surrounded by people who love and care about me regardless of my muffin top.
I do honestly remind myself of all these things and more when I look in the mirror and don’t like what I see. I suppose that I probably will always occasionally struggle with my weight and how I look. I always have from time to time, so it doesn’t make sense that it would mystically go away anytime soon. The most annoying and hardest part is the small little diva voice in the back of my mind that sometimes quietly whispers that if I just stopped eating for a couple weeks I would slim right down again. Ugh….go away crazy diva voice…..I have burgers and shit to eat, new beers to try, and things to do that have nothing to do with you!
Going forward, the best I can do is continue to work out, maybe reign in the diet and kick up the cardio a bit, and just generally live the best and healthiest life I can live! You only get one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do. I refuse to believe that anyone looks back on their life and regrets the fancy desserts they ate, or the summer time patio drinks with friends they drank. That simply can’t be reality…..and if it is, I don’t want it to be my reality. If I had continued on the stressed out path I was on, I know looking back that I would have regrets. I already regret the things I did or didn’t do because my anxiety controlled my life.
I lived that life once, and I refuse to go back there.
This summer, in the same jeans as last summer. A little bit squishier than last summer, but I’m happy! Ignore the sass face, The Engineer was mocking my photo skills….but he’s just jealous of my shooting skillz!
Happy is healthy….and that’s all there is to it!