4th Fun

What’s a newly single Mishappenings supposed to do with herself!?  The answer is pretty simple……hang out with you’re ride or die friends and drink!  So, that’s basically what I’ve been doing…..and it’s been glorious.

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Homemade vodka lemonade with strawberry at the BBF’s……don’t mind if I do!!

 

We also managed to grill, teach her neice about the glories of explosives, and terrify all the dogs except the baby dachshund all in one fabulous afternoon!!

Sunday night brought stock car races in Nebraska. It was also the event that really cemented the fact that I had been dating a highschool girl for the past 7 months, but more on that later probably.

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When you’ve got all your money riding on that black and gold dream!

 

I also got to spend my first night in a camper and discovered that life is always better in the pit.

It was an amazingly successful holiday weekend that wouldn’t have at all been possible if I didn’t have the amazing friends that I do. I’m sure that I was slightly poutier than my usual self, but they understand that. Those are the best kind of friends to have!

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Summertime Survival

I’ve never really been one who feels like your apparel or accessories with make or break your success at any given activity.  Now I know as well as anyone that certain activities need certain apparel.  I can’t even begin to tell you how much money my parents spent on swim suits, caps, googles, leotards and tights for dance, and of course…..dance shoes.  It’s safe to say that I didn’t have the cheapest of hobbies growing up.  However, for most of us gym goers, it’s just become super trendy and important to have the latest and greatest workout gear.

I’m a really firm believer in the fact that an expensive outfit isn’t going to make you run further or lift heavier.  Who wants to spend a million dollars on clothes….and then sweat in them all the time!?  You’re never going to look cute when you’re done, and if you do you’re doing it wrong!

I workout everyday….I understand wanting to look cute and be comfortable while doing so.  The regular luxuries I allow for myself is good pants and quality bras.  No one wants to be squatting in see through pants or bouncing around in a bra that isn’t getting the job done.  However, do you know the difference between a top from Lulu and a random top from……like $40!  I don’t really know what makes a black tank top from Lulu for $50 better than one I can pull off the TJ Maxx rack for $10.  Give me my Maxinista status all day of any day.  Plus cheaper clothes means I can have more clothes, and variety keeps life spicy.  I only have a couple expensive nice bras, because I only do cardio heavy activity a couple times a week.  Rowing and yoga don’t really require that the girls be strapped down to within an inch of their lives.  Plus, Victoria’s Secret has a surprisingly high amount of sales on their sports line, you just have to pay attention.

I did however buy myself something expensive the other day……AND I LOVE IT!  My old freebie water bottle was starting to get moldy up around the gaskets in the lid.  So….I bought myself  S’well bottle.  Truth be told, I was fully expecting this thing to be hype.  I mean, it’s gorgeous colored, but looks are often times deceiving.

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This is the color I picked….Super Nova…..and she’s gorgeous!

Let me tell you…..this little baby keeps water cold…..even in a black car on a 100 degree day!  It works great for hot class.  Nothing re-motivates you to towel off/ring out the sweat and keep lifting like actual cold water.  I get that regular old lukewarm water will keep you hydrated….but it just doesn’t offer the same relief.  I went biking the other day and didn’t take my S’well because I didn’t want it to get banged up, and I was severely regretting it.  When you’re hot…..hot water is gross!

So, some facts about my spiffy new accessory…..according to the website it-

  • Keeps drinks cold for 12 hours and hot for 6
  • Outside of bottles don’t condense so you won’t ever loose your grip
  • The 29oz version (the size I bought) HOLDS AN ENTIRE BOTTLE OF WINE!!!!!!!

I don’t know that I’ve ever needed a water bottle to be able to hold a whole bottle of wine, but I don’t think I’m opposed to that sorta thing either.  Double bonus is that since it seals up so tightly and keeps things chilled, it would be perfect for smuggling moscato on to a pool deck.

………not that I do those things…..but you know …….options are always nice…….

Life with a Limper

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When you are the momma to a recovered, limpy, sore dog, there are certain things you don’t take for granted.

  • The good walks you get to take.  Even if you’re busy, even if it’s hot and buggy or too cold and blowing, a good walk is always a good walk.
  • Every time she jumps onto the couch by herself.
  • When she can tackle stairs and not look nervous or in pain.
  • Talking to other dog owners about her brace, and maybe helping other people consider non-surgerical treatment options to get their fur babies back on the right track.
  • Every spin, swirl, and buck when she’s showing her toys who’s boss.
  • When you neighbors ask about her leg and compliment how much better she’s looking lately.
  • She she prances over whipping her rope for a game of tug-o-war.
  • Not having to worry about reigning in her activity or making sure she doesn’t hurt herself some more.
  • Watching like a proud momma when she comes out of her shell around other people and dogs because she can move comfortably.
  • The days you forget she’s limpy because she acts just like a normal dog.

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When your recovered, limpy, sore dog injures her other leg, there are certain things you hate.

  • You’re new vet telling you that you’ve ruined your dogs quality of life.
  • Hearing about arthritis, surgeries, and recovery time and feeling like you don’t know which is the right decision to make.
  • Any vet telling you, “Just let her be and maybe she’ll get better,” or “Well, she has a history of joint issues so this will just continue to happen.”
  • Knowing that as a rescue fur momma you promised to keep your pound baby safe and happy, and feeling like you’re failing.
  • Watching her tripod around and struggle just to live her little puppy dog life.
  • Doing the best you can, but knowing that someone will always judge your choices.
  • When you’ve made huge gains and progress on getting her back into fighting shape, and now it feels derailed.

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On to brace number two, and hoping my fur baby has a second speedy recovery!

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A Weekend of DIY

I know that I missed posting a blog last week.  I had done so well for a year, but sometimes you just drop the ball on things.  In my defense, it had been a busy week of getting the house ready for summertime and getting a big chunk of my house’s to do list done.  I get that “success and excuses don’t talk together”, but sometimes in life shit happens.

Side note…..well aware I missed last week too!  Apparently when I’m not in school I’m totally incapable of keeping a schedule of any sort. :/

Let’s do the exterior of the house first shall we?!  Summertime means it’s time to PLANT ALL THE THINGS!  I mean, I didn’t plant all the things, but I did plant several things to sprinkle out and around the house.

On the planting list this year were:

  • Cherry Tomato – Scout baby needs her tomato fix every day when I get home from work.  I don’t use these for anything other than some outdoor snacking with my Lil.  The fact that she doesn’t just pick them herself is surprising, but she just sits next to the plant doing her anxious prance-y feet waiting for you to hand them to her.
  • Mini Sweet Bell Peppers – I’ve never grown this variety, but I assume they are good just for straight eating off the vine?!  We shall see!
  • Green and Yellow Beans – Cuz you know I’m going to need to can some more Dilly Beans!
  • Wave Petunia – Easy to grow and I mean…..why not
  • Kale – Confession time……I HAVEN’T PLANTED THE KALE!!!  I couldn’t find a nice “bowl” shaped pot I liked, and I ran out of potting soil anyway.  Plus, in a mad dash to stop the Limping Nugget from asserting her authority towards some dogs across the fence, I threw the hose down….and my kale seeds got wet.  Are they still good to plant!?!  Does anyone know!?  Are my seeds just growing in their package!?  SOMEONE HALP ME!!!!!!

I also finally fixed the gutters around my house.  It was a pain in the butt….literally because I was sitting in landscaping rock….but it’s done and over with so hopefully the foundation of my lil townhome will stay nice, dry, and happy.

Now……on to the interior projects.

You’ll recall that I’ve basically wanted to repaint the master bedroom since I moved into the house.  I did write a small preview blog with what I thought were my ideas, however some of that may have been a lie.  I have yet to finish my garage, but I did paint my bedroom Blackberry….sorta.  There is no chair rail, but I did end up buying the birdcage chandelier!

Well, to celebrate graduating with my Master’s, my Momma decided that she would buy me paint and trim to redo the bedroom.  Now, let’s be real, that’s way too much money, and I shall be trying to not let her pay for everything.  The thought and the gesture are amazing, I just feel bad.  IDK if ya’ll are aware, but home improvement projects are not cheap!  This is mostly the reason why I never started the project before.  WHY MUST ADULTING COST SO MUCH….ALL…..THE….TIME…..!!!!!!

Momma and I decided to use the long weekend to finally get going with the project.  She arrived Thursday night and we were pretty much totally unprepared.  I only knew that I wanted to use the color Blackberry.  The two shades of tan that I thought we had decided on for the trim and other walls basically ended up as variations of the “Townhouse Beige” that adorns every other wall in my house.  Basically, Thursday night was spent staring at a small collection of generally not that wonderful paint chips and hoping they became wonderful…..they didn’t.

Friday morning I pulled up all the baseboards out of the bedroom so that we could apply liquid sandpaper to pull the shine off the surface and make the paint stick.  I googled the internet to try and find a picture of what we used, but couldn’t.  It was a super old container of something Dad had used, so it’s possible the it’s not made anymore.  I thought something magical would happen to the woodwork, like it would get cloudy or bubbly, or something to let you know it was working…..nothing really changed.  They looked cleaner….which make them shinier….which seemed a bit like not at all the point of the project.

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Here’s a picture of the back of the liquid sandpaper can….SO HELPFUL!  Also picture, my excellent painter’s taping skillz and the tools required to remove baseboards.

A trip to Sherwin Williams later, and I had my three colors: Blackberry, Glamour, and Irish Cream.  Yes I know, of course I would pick the color Glamour….it’s not my fault, it’s just want matched my curtain and bed skirt.  In other glorious news…..NONE OF THEM LOOK ANYTHING LIKE TOWNHOME BEIGE! (Sherwin Williams actually makes a color called Townhouse Tan……it made me giggle a lot!)

Friday night I finished taping and we did manage to get a coat of Irish Cream onto the ceiling……it was looking pretty good, until the morning when the splotches showed up.  So Saturday morning was another coat on the bedroom ceiling and one coat on the bathroom ceiling, because we totally forgot that the night before.  I think on Saturday we also primed all the bedroom walls?!  Frankly, it was a lot of days off work, and when I’m not at work I sort of never keep track of the day I’m on.  But, in any case, before the serious painting could begin, everything had to be primed.

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Primer…..makes everything look good.  By good I of course mean like crap.

Saturday night we went to Menards to scope trim options.  We of course left with no trim…..because that’s how we roll, but I did get a new chandelier for the living room.  ONE MORE UGLY BOOB LIGHT GONE!  “Boob lights” is just a better name for those stupid flush mount ceiling half orb light thinkers……I saw it on another DIY blog and it make me giggle!

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“For the glamorous….oh the flossy, flossy!”–Fergie

I hung the new chandelier, finished some random odds and ends, and got some other new lights ready for installation while Momma worked on painting the trim.  I’m not a great painter….honestly I’ve never really tried.  But, Momma found cute little mini handled paint brushes she wanted to try at Home Depot, so she edged out all the trim we had left up…..so the doors (there are a lot of doors in my bedroom honestly) and the window.  After that was all said and done, we started the first of two coats on the bedroom walls.

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THE BIRDCAGE!! It was already darkish, but it had some speckles I didn’t like so it got sprayed down dark.

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New vanity light….It was oil rubbed bronze. Sometimes, spray paint is all you need!

NEXT CAME THE GLAMOUR!

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The colors I picked are oddly hard to capture in a good picture. Glamour is a warm pinky/plum/beigey neutral. Also, the Irish Cream isn’t that yellow in person, it’s just a nice off white cream.

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The square of primer is where the Blackberry went in the bedroom.

Monday we got two coats of blackberry done in the bathroom, and three coats on the bedroom’s accent wall.  It was slightly traumatic because it was definitely harder to get the dark color to look good.  The first coat of Blackberry looked absolutely horrible…..like horrible pink primer.  Maybe it was our technique, maybe we had the wrong kind of roller, maybe that’s just how dark paint is…..idk but it wasn’t super reassuring.

Sunday night, Monday night, and Tuesday night were mostly spent getting odds and ends done and the rooms put back together.  Mom didn’t have to work until Wednesday, so she stayed Tuesday while I went to work so that we could do the last coat of Blackberry in the bathroom after work.

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If you’re in need of custom curtains, you can try contacting Momma Mishappenings…..it’s always worked for me!

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The bathroom is the most “finished” looking of either room.  Partly that’s because we trimmed out the whole ceiling, so it just looks more finished then the bedroom currently does.  The plan is to install crown molding at the ceiling so that it won’t matter that we didn’t paint all the way to the ceiling.  If we decide that’s too much, it’s just paint and I can go back over the things we aren’t going to cover with molding.  I’m liking my new little dark fancy bathroom.  Like every bathroom I’m ever in in the future is probably going to need to be this color!  I did however get some Blackberry on my toilet….I should maybe work on getting that scrubbed off….oopsy!

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In case you’re wondering where Scout was during all of this, she was her regularly clingy self.  Friday night I slept out on the couch, and I thought Scout might like a little Mommy and Me sleep over time.  I was wrong, I woke up and she was sleeping on the drop cloth.  Riddle me how or why laying on the drop cloth is better than the carpet?!  She didn’t seem to care and spent most of the weekend being firmly committed to her new found love of drop clothes.  Also, wedging herself into places she doesn’t really fit and being sorta generally under foot were additional favorite weekend activities.

There is still a lot of project to go:

  • The accent wall needs stenciling, a huge frame, and accent lighting
  • The window and doors all need additional trim to amp them up a bit
  • The baseboards need to be beefed up….although this will probably be the easiest of all the projects.  We can’t start it until we figure out how much we are expanding the door trims
  • The bedroom needs crown molding
  • I’d like to maybe build some sort of valance to go over the top of the curtain to cover up the raw edges.  It used to be mounted flush to the ceiling so it didn’t matter, but my bedroom now as higher ceilings.

Of course it’s a huge to do list still, and projects might change or get dropped.  Like I said, if we decide not to do things its just going to take some more time with a paint brush to finish off some of the areas we left unfinished but plan to cover with molding and trim.  Beyond those projects, I still have an antique door to turn into an mirror and a bedside table that now desperately needs to be refinished.

Home ownership…..the never ending to do list!

 

Trying to Think Happy Thoughts

I’m not sure why, but lately I’ve been feeling very squishy and down on myself.  Usually, I’m pretty confident about myself and the work I put into looking and feeling the way I do.  One of my first posts ever  was about appreciating the body I have!!  UGH….  Lately though, I’m not sure if I’m regressing, or just not making the gains in strength I feel like I should……but I’m feeling super blob-tastic.

 

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This is a Heffalump……I’ve really been feeling lately like I’m one with the Heffalumps.  Plus side, at least Heffalumps are adorable!

 

I almost feel like I had a better relationship with my body and the way I looked BEFORE I started working out and focusing on cleaning up my diet and lifestyle.  I used to be really proud of my “non thigh gap” thighs and my cute “I used to be a ballerina” butt.  These ads used to make me feel like it was ok not to be stick thin, but lately they just haven’t had the same effect.

 

….now I just feel like the time and effort is all for nothing.

I have never….ever……in my whole life……at my squishiest…..had any qualms about jumping into a bikini and chilling by the pool or on the beach.  Now, with a vacation scheduled with the Main Squeeze in July, I suddenly feel like I need to eat carrot sticks, celery, and water until we leave.  It’s all totally ridiculous, and I know that.  I just can’t shake the feeling that I’m not looking my best.  Also, the more I think about these things, plan meals, schedule workouts, and generally bust ass trying to get my ass rounder, my stomach flatter, and my arms buffer……the worse I feel!

I ordered a new swim suit for the vaca, and it was just a total let down.  Probably due to the fact that bikinis look much better with a tan….which the SoDak winter doesn’t really allow anyone to have.  Also, I had been feeling like I was looking really good, until I realized that my butt doesn’t look like an Angel’s butt.  I felt like I had been living with delusions of skinniness, and they all came crashing down.  In my brain I was quite sure that my butt looked just like theirs, until I turned around and saw it in the mirror.

So, this is my new plan.  I’m going to chalk my March mind set up to a late onset case of Seasonal Affective Disorder, and start fresh in April!  I’m gonna focus more on making myself feel better, and get back to being confident in myself.   Being me is pretty awesome.  Look at all the things my body has and will continue do for me!!

I can make my body do all sorts of things that some people only wish they could do.  I need to learn to be more grateful for my body….which includes it’s flaws.

When all else fails, sometimes it’s nice to look back at old pics.  It’s nice to see how far you’ve come.  I find it especially helpful, because it reminds me that I’ve always been comfortable and confident in my own skin, and nothing, not even being pasty white in a bikini, should change that.

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Florida 2011….my at my squishiest

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New Years Eve 2012 with the BFF…..and Spanx

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Halloween 2014….same dress, no Spanx

 

To start April off on a good note, I got to spend the weekend with my Main Squeeze, some bull riding, and homemade pizza night.  Ringing in the month with dinner with Momma and the Squeeze and a couple PBRs guilt free felt like a really good start to getting back to my old self!

Chapter 12: The Things You Learn

Since we’ve already covered the fact that I’m an upper twenty something with absurd dating stories….obviously, I’ve dated some winners.  I am however, a firm believer that everything you go through in life molds you into the person you currently are.  You can either become weighed down with your failures, or use them as opportunities to grow.  I choose to grow!  Part of growing means you must dig through the crap trying to find helpful nuggets to truth.  This can be especially difficult after a break up.  Give yourself some time, enjoy some of Ben and Jerry’s fine creations, and when you’re ready, begin the digging.

From every relationship I’ve tried to learn something.  Sometimes they are stupid, sometimes they help other people more than they help me, but there always has to be a good thing.  Some of the relationships were serious, some were not, doesn’t mean you can’t learn.

  • The OG Time really does heal even the deepest of wounds and betrayals.  It’s taken more the a decade, but the OG and I are back on friend terms…..we even occasionally get together for drinks!
  • The Drummer – Your Momma is always right.  I know you don’t want to admit this, but it’s true….just accept it and move on.
  • Tonka Truck Driver – There is a clear, and sometimes not so present difference between Mr. Good Enough for Now and Mr. Right.  Don’t ever think you need to settle, and be grateful for the bullets you dodge in life!
  • The Pot Head – Apparently, you can make pot brownies without actual leaves in your batter?? The things you learn when chemistry and chemical dependence meet.
  • The Ginger – Country boys and city girls don’t mix…….this is wrong. Don’t let other people’s opinions weigh on your relationship.  Especially when those opinions come from the girl your man had previously wanted to date.  Jealousy is a for real thing kids!  If nothing else, remember city girls and country jerks don’t mix!
  • ADD 3Spicy Ramen packets! I don’t eat them, but they became a favorite lunchtime treat for one of my UBS girls!
  • Naked Burrito Guy – You can make eggs in the microwave! I never knew….turns out guys who can’t cook do have some useful kitchen skills.  Making breakfast burritos has never been so quick and easy!
  • The Pole Jumper – Enchiladas…..he’ll make them better than you, but it’s something to work towards!  Trial and error can be delicious…..a slightly sub par enchilada is better than no enchilada at all!
  • The Cliffdiver – Sometimes, giving someone a second chance just isn’t worth the effort.  It doesn’t make you a bad person to say no to people.
  • The Asshole Tinder Cowboy – Cowboys know they are sexy, and they know every girl finds them sexy…..AVOID AT ALL COSTS! 
  • The Frat Boy – It’s always ok to take risks and go after what you want.  You know you tried, even if it doesn’t work out.

Only the Good Die Young

Here are pictures of the people I’ve lost to cancer who were born in the month of March.

Grandpa P, born March 4th

Grandma P, born March 7th

Dad, born March 10th

 

Thank you cancer….for taking from me everyone I love who was born in March, and for forever starting my Spring off on a shitty foot!

I don’t have much else to say, the pictures speak for themselves.

I will say this……if cancer makes you angry, AND IT SHOULD, I might recommend supporting those those who are fighting this nightmare everyday, and those who have dedicated their lives to helping eliminate the nightmare.  If like me, you feel like traditional charities aren’t meeting your frustration needs, I would suggest http://www.fuckcancer.org

I don’t know that another quote about cancer has ever quite made me feel like it was ok to be angry with the cards cancer has dealt me.

We are sorry if you are offended or have a problem with the word FxCK! We are offended and have a problem with the word CANCER!”

This is the reality of cancer….a father and two grandparents taken too soon.  I’ve also lost my Dad’s mom to cancer!  I have a serious bone to pick with this awful disease!  I have however, also been fortunate enough to watch people fight and win!!  Those wins are the moments which provide hope and the strength to celebrate the memories.

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